“It is useless to try to help people who want your
attention but not any kind of real help.”
~Toni Stone, www.wonderworks.org
In building your business, it is essential to figure out who
wants your real help, and who just wants attention. This
is a distinction which makes the difference between a thriving
business, and a hobby. Believe me, I know! Over the years I
have enjoyed serving people as a coach, hypnotherapist,
dance teacher, meditation teacher, musician, writer, and
saleswoman. And during various phases, I have been
lured into the seductive pull of “the person who wants my
This person is sometimes rich, sometimes poor,
sometimes liberal, sometimes conservative. The one quality
this person always has is a desire to talk my ear off without
being willing to pay for any of my services which could
help them get a desired result. It’s not that they can’t pay,
as I said, sometimes they are very well off, living in a large
home with a fancy car. The thing is, THEY DON”T WANT
REAL CHANGE. They just want attention for the complaint.
You know these folks. The friend who bemoans the lousy
relationship for a year, the client who wants ever more of your
unpaid time, your sister who complains perpetually about her
boss…It makes you feel good to listen, until you notice that you
are feeling drained or your bills aren’t getting paid. Wake up!
Most people will not make a real change until they invest in
something different for themselves with time & money.
I am so grateful for these people, because when I am
entertaining them it is a sign that more real helping is needed.
And so I get in action to enroll more coaching clients, more
inspirational talks & performances, more meditation students.
I am happy to be where real help is happening~ where people
are investing in real change for themselves, and getting it,
because they are paying for it.
Where are you giving attention to people who don’t
want real change? What can you do to be of real service?
And where can you allow yourself to receive real income
for a job well done? Real people help real people.
That’s how it works.